AVOIDING SEXUAL IMMORALITIES DURING COURTSHIP

“There hath no temptation taken you but such is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able, but will with the temptation also make a way of escape, that ye may be able to bear it.” – 1 Cor. 10:13

In the last edition, we started addressing the issue of sexual immoralities during courtship. We were able to outline the consequence of sexual immoralities. In this edition I shall highlight why believers fall into sexual immoralities especially during courtship.

UNNECESSARY CLOSENESS
When both parties are unnecessarily close, the possibility of going into sexual immoralities becomes very high. Spending the whole day together discussing unedifying issues and being alone in an apartment will also give the flesh room to yield to the devil. Watch the time you spend together, avoid unnecessary privacy. Do all your private discussions in the open.

INDISCIPLINED DRESSING AND TALKING
The male body respond to what he sees while the female body respond to what he touches. As a lady in courtship avoid putting on dresses that will turn your fiancee on. Learn to sit upright with your thigh closed. He may not be able to tell you the effect of your loose dressing but you are already sowing a seed of lust inside him. Also you need to avoid loose words and jokes that could lead you embracing and touching yourself deeply, it could lead to an open door to fornication.

POOR RELATIONSHIP FOUNDATION
This could also expose you to sexual immoralities if both of you just met and initiated the relationship without the consent of your pastor or anyone who is older spiritually, then abuse will become inevitable. Your partner is not more than your girlfriend or boyfriend neither is he or she your husband. Have a deep understanding of biblical pattern on courtship. Every local church has a laid down rules and regulation governing courtship and marriage matters. The primary purpose of these standards is to keep you from falling and to lead you in the path of righteousness.

HIDDEN OLD NATURE
This is more frequent among young converts, though it can happen to anyone. If you know your weakness is in this area, then you must be sincere with yourself and do everything to avoid being alone with her and get your mind renewed with God’s word. If you need to go for deliverance, please do.

What if you have already committed the sin or you always find yourself committing the sin, is there a way out? Yes.

  1. Go report to your pastor, be humble enough to do so. The devil hates confession.
  2. Submit yourself for deliverance and spiritual counseling to avoid recurrence and demonic attack.
  3. Check the foundation of the relationship.
  4. Give yourself to prayer and the ministry of the word.
  5. Get busy for God. Idle hands are devil’s parking lot.

SEVEN THINGS YOU MUST KNOW AS A SINGLE

  1. You are living for a purpose
  2. The foundation for your tomorrow is now.
  3. Who you move with shows who you are.
  4. You are the future of the Church.
  5. You are the image of the Church.
  6. You are worth more than a million.
  7. You have a limited time.

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